Honoring Our Soul Relationships

As we come into life through the natural birth process, our initial orientation toward life is normally from a human perspective. Our early relationships are usually with our human family -- our parents, our siblings -- and as we emerge into our childhood years, we tend to develop friendships based on human personality characteristics. As we pass through adolescence, along our path toward adulthood, we are strongly influenced by human cultural values as we deal with the age-old question, "What do I want to do when I grow up?"

However, as we proceed along life's journey, many of us gradually begin to get in touch with a deeper essence within ourself. As we connect more and more deeply with this "soul essence," we begin to change our perspective of life. Rather than basing our life goals simply upon human values, we begin to reorient our life, to bring it into alignment with our soul's plan and purpose. Those of us who go through a "walk-in" experience may find this reorientation process greatly accelerated.

One of the aspects of our life that is commonly affected most by this change in perspective is our relationship to others. Rather than basing our relationships primarily on biological family connections or human personality attractions, we tend to be drawn to those with whom we have significant soul connections from past lifetimes, or from mutual experiences within other realms.

Oftentimes, we find that these "soul attractions" seem to be in conflict with our human life situation. For example, if we are married and we unexpectedly meet someone of the opposite sex with whom we sense a deep soul connection, and with whom we experience deep feeling of love, it quite likely will bring up human emotional issues, such as jealousy and insecurity, in our relationship with our spouse. Or, perhaps we may meet someone of the same sex with whom we may have shared deep connections in past lifetimes, and find ourself confused by the depth of our love for such a person. Since we don't always incarnate lifetime after lifetime in a body of the same sex, our soul connections tend to blur the lines of sexual orientation and sexual feelings.

Before we incarnate, either through the natural birth process or as a "walk-in," we develop a life plan that will enable us to have human experiences which will assist our soul's evolution. Within the context of this plan, we make agreements with other souls who will play important roles in our forthcoming life experience. After incarnation, our respective souls choreograph life events such that we will come into contact with each other at the appropriate time.

There are at least three primary reasons as to why we might choose to establish such a "soul agreement" with another soul:

Karmic

We may have been together in a past lifetime, and may have acted toward each other in a manner that was inappropriate. Consequently, there may be unbalanced residual emotional energies which need to be worked out and brought into balance in the context of human life experience. Such soul agreements are often referred to as "karmic" soul agreements.

Soul Teams

Normally, our soul purpose cannot be accomplished solely by ourself -- no pun intended! Rather, it usually requires a "team." So we typically establish soul agreements with others of our team, who, when we later meet up with them in human life, will work together with us in the accomplishment of our mutual soul mission.

Awakening

When two souls who have deep soul connections with each other meet in human life, it creates an energetic "resonance" which helps to awaken a particular facet within each other's soul essence. So, we may establish a soul agreement with someone in order to awaken, and bring into human expression, a particular facet of our soul which up to that point in time may have been dormant. Sometime this awakening process can take place virtually in an instant, by exchanging "light codes" through the eyes, or sometimes it may require more time, through exchanges of the heart.

How do we know whether or not we have a soul agreement with a particular person? There are several clues. First, there is often an unexplainable feeling of familiarity when we look into each other's eyes. If the soul connection is especially deep, and if it involves a particularly significant soul agreement, there is usually a "freeze-frame" memory of the first moment we met that person. In other words, as we later reflect back upon the first time we met a particular person, we may retain a clear "picture" in our mind of all of the circumstances of that moment -- where we physically were in respect to the other person, who else was present, and various other details of that first meeting. Lastly, if someone keeps reappearing in our life, for no explainable reason, it is quite possible that we have a soul agreement with them.

In order to move into the fullness of our soul's purpose, it is essential that we honor our soul agreements -- at least the ones that are of the greatest significance. This implies that we must live life with an open heart, and that we be alert to the possible significance of each new person who comes into our life. It also is important that when we first meet someone, we look beyond the physical and personality aspects of the person, and tune into the essence of their soul. To do this, we must be willing to look deeply into each other's eyes, and allow the natural energies to flow.

Finally, it is important that we create enough space within our existing relationships so that new people can come into our life in a meaningful way. When we first meet someone with whom we feel a significant connection, we are seldom able to perceive the full significance of that person in relationship to our life during our initial encounter. It often requires sharing time together, mutually exploring respective feelings and perceptions, before the deeper purpose reveals itself.

The concept of soul agreements, and their importance to our life, is relatively new territory for our human experience. We have much yet to learn -- especially in regard to integrating soul relationships into the context of our human lives. As is the case in exploring any new territory, there are no "rights" or "wrongs," there is only learning through experience. But isn't that what life is all about?